Most of us go through romantic relationships looking for the perfect relationship. The point is: the quality of the relationship is subjective. We know that bad relationships have negative effects, such as poor physical health, depression, and productivity at work, but sometimes we can not determine what is good. The good news is, scientists have discovered what the essential features of a successful unit are.
There are reasons why some romantic relationships are better than others.
Although it is difficult to understand what a relationship is, scientists have long studied the reason for their success. Psychologist John Gottman called it the “love laboratory” after conducting various experiments. Based on his findings, he classified the couples as “masters” and “disasters.” He later observed the common characteristics of “masters” (those with long-term relationships) and “disaster” (those who are divorced or unhappy).
He concluded that “masters” value each other and build an atmosphere of respect and kindness. Feeling valid, caring, understanding, and sharing happy moments is important for couples to feel connected and truly with each other. But other proven traits make a relationship last.
The Most Significant Qualities In A Long-Term Relationship
A fascinating study analyzed 11,196 couples over a year and collected data to predict the quality of relationships. They measure age, personality traits, gender, and income. These are the most predictable traits if a partner is happy in a relationship.
- Understanding Partner Commitment
- Appreciation
- Satisfaction in an intimate relationship
- Partner Satisfaction
- Conflict
These traits show that both partners are invested, have similar goals, and feel the trust, love, and desire of an intimate, romantic relationship.
If they are overcome, the individual factors and risks that lead to relationship satisfaction are
The following are some of the characteristics of a partner based on their feelings about the relationship.
- Life satisfaction
- Negative effect
- Management Depression
- Avoid attachments
- Attachment Anxiety
Also, it means that they are the most important emotions in a relationship. Some are good, and some are not. Overall, the sum of positive emotions should outweigh the negative ones and build a happy long-term relationship. Interestingly, it does not matter how the partner understands the personality, race, education, or other partner relationship.
After all, having a good relationship is satisfying and appreciative.
This means that a long-term relationship goes beyond what we are usually taught: the illusion of finding the perfect partner. The study proves that the quality of a relationship is primarily based on how satisfied and appreciative you are of each other – and that personality is very small. According to the study’s author, Samantha Joel, it’s more important to build a partnership than the real partner you choose, leading to a satisfying relationship. For all of us, the advice is: do not focus too much on one person but on both the connection with each other and your satisfaction.